Judgement gets you nowhere. I spent many years judging others when I felt like I was an outsider. I used to think everyone was better than me. I compared myself to others every opportunity I got. And of course, I never measured up because we are all the same with the same issues. Mine was around the color of my skin and how I thought I was treated because of it. We play terrible tricks with our mind when we are coming from a place of victimhood or blame. I can remember blaming classmates, neighbors, a stranger in the mall for treating me badly. It was so unreal. When I look back on it now, I see my whole way of thinking was distorted. And that's putting it mildly.
Now I realize that most of my bad feelings came from my misjudging. I had a distorted view of what I looked like. Even worse I had a distorted view of what I thought other people were thinking about me. How egotistical was that to think that others are spending their time thinking about you. You couldn't tell me otherwise then.
Fortunately, I developed confidence and a good self image. I have to admit sometimes it comes back and shows its ugly head. I have tools now to keep me centered in who I am. I also learned to not judge others by the way they look. Thank goodness I changed. Now when I think I'm not as good as the next person, I see myself by first looking at what I accomplished instead of when I failed. I then realize that the person I am looking at also succeeded at things and failed as well. We are all alike.
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